Hey guys! Sister almost with a Mister here! That’s sister #3, Tani (Taw-Knee), or Tanisha you choose! Wedding plans are in full force, or well, honestly, we are mostly done wedding planning. We finalized almost all the plans in December even though we don’t get married until May, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t things to do still… We are moving to Logan when we get hitched so that means we need a roof over our heads. We have been keeping our eyes peeled constantly for a good find, He doesn’t want to live in an apartment because he wants his own space to work on his toys (89 dodge truck, 87 dirt bike). I mean who doesn’t like a yard with some nice tall trees that you can go out and sit under? That being said, we will get what we can afford. We are young “poor college students”, so we definitely have a price limit, so most of the places we could afford or get into are tiny and old, but adorable! I mean how fun is it to have a fixer upper! I would have the chance to make cute new curtains and paint! Both of which I love! But our options are limited. I’d say we will most likely end up in an apartment, Shhhh…… Don’t tell Ben. But I am okay with that! We are just newlyweds… less is more.
Now the next issue is once you find your dream little home or duplex or not very wanted apartment, how do you pay for it?? You’ve got to have a job. Since we are moving to Logan, both of us need to find a job. When is too early to look? I have come to the conclusion that it never is too early to look. If you find jobs that you would like to work at go ahead and apply!! Even if your availability date is a little way away, let them say no to you, give yourself a chance!! You never know! Maybe they like what they see with you, and are willing to wait, or perhaps the application progress takes longer! Take a risk, apply for all the jobs that you would really like to work at and hope for the best. That’s what I have been doing, I have 8 applications in right now, and I am waiting to hear back from the employers. I am excited! Since I have so much time until I can move up there and work, I have had lots of time to look at apply for jobs that I would really enjoy! Each job I have applied for I would be so excited to get. But the good news is, I am not in a huge crunch to have a job, so if I don’t get any of these I am still working on and applying for more. Earlier is better than later!
As you can tell between school my current job, homework, and planning and searching, my life is full of tasks. Two things my very patient fiancé taught me these last couple of weeks, is that we HAVE to take time for each other at least once a week. Just the two of us nobody else. It doesn’t matter how long, but I would suggest you get at least 2 hours to yourselves at a minimum. It doesn’t matter what you do, like a walk, dinner, maybe just a night at home. But for your relationship to stay strong and without extra strain, it is important to still date and take time for the two of you. The second thing is something I feel many people and especially us women do all the time, that our men don’t appreciate. And it is, using the words “fine” and “I don’t care”. I have been really stressed and upset about things lately that I feel like I am overreacting about, they still make me ornery, but I don’t feel like I need to say anything because I feel I am over reacting. Ben notices when my mood is off even by the slightest, and when he asked me if I am okay I reply with “I’m Fine”. He HATES that. Because he knows that something is wrong. He wants to be trusted and wants to know what’s wrong so he can fix it, or at least help. The second phrase “I don’t care” occurs when our men ask us what we want to do or where we want to eat… and Ben had had it with it! So… we made an agreement that anytime a question is asked, I am not allowed to say “Fine” or “I don’t care”, and he said he would abbey the same rule. I don’t know about you all, but that is hard for me!! Because sometimes I really don’t care…. But this last week I have worked on it and our communication and relationship has felt so much stronger and productive. I would recommend this little piece of advice to every relationship out there, always give a direct response, this way the asker feels like you care and want to communicate, and for you, there is not unneeded “just pick”- “no you pick” nonsense.
Thanks for letting me Gab! Till next time.